What women want in a man, a discussion

Woman #1

Why the 17 brand new pairs of shoes, unworn in the closet and still shopping for more….. 
Because each pair goes to a different outfit. It would look awful silly to wear purple shoes with a green outfit.

Why the toilet seat must always be left down.. 
Because I wake in the middle of the night when a kid pukes.

Why hair product, make up, conditioners, etc. taking up every spot on the bathroom counter…
For the same reason newspaper is all over the place.

What I want to know most is what type of man you like.
My husband

I bet this thread gets better answers

hah…great subject

“Let me know… what do you women want? What bugs you most that us men do? What do you like most?”

we women, we want a man with brains and a great body. we also want one that won’t do completely idiotic things for the hell of idiocy, and one that enjoys moving away from the tv.

what bugs me the most that men do?
all the dim things that common sense tells them not to do but they do anyway.

what do i like most?
definitely the body, men are beautiful creatures for the most part (except when they let themselves go…ahh). i also like the fact most men are less argumentative than women and that they make pretty decent friends too.

now about the shoes, not all women do that. my mother does it and it upsets the hell out of me because there’s shoes EVERYWHERE all the time. some women like to collect shoes so that they can be prepared for every occassion and every outfit…years down the line.

the toilet seat should be left down because sometimes we are half awake when we go to the bathroom and don’t pay a lot of attention, sit down, and in the dirty toilet water we go…ewwww. that and it looks ridiculous when the toilet seat is left up…it just makes the bathroom look uninviting for some reason.

as for the hair products, make up, yada yada…you men want us to look damn good, you must sacrifice your bathroom sink space…

now as for the type of man i like…basically what my boyfriend is; the type that puts the seat down, doesn’t get pee all over the bathroom, uses his brain, doesn’t think with his lower head all the damn time, looks good, is loving, caring, somewhat successful (at least holds down a full time job) and isn’t a whore when he’s drunk.

I’m recoiling from the gender based cliches about what men want and what women want. Dating blogs are full of these lists of differences which IMO are artificial as gender based cliches, generalizations and stereotyping always fall apart under scrutiny. We are both members of the same species after all, aren’t we? 

Men and women are both from earth and they both need and want the same things in long term relationships. Men and women have far more in common than they do differences. However, those selling products and services and their customers dwell on the differences, and what we fail to recognize is that when we buy into stereotyping we are buying into dehumanizing each other. 

If you want to read my list you will have to click my username and then the url for my blog this time ~ this space. When you arrive on my blog simply copy and paste this title into the searchbox to find the post titled: Earthlings seek loving compatible partners

The following are turn-offs for me:
Dishonesty
(1) Lack of attention to personal hygiene
(2) Lack of common courtesy and manners
(3) Addictions to drink, drugs & red meat
(4) Religiosity
(5) Lack of kindness and compassion for others
(6) Inability or disinterest in managing money appropriately
(7) Strong interest in armchair ie. non-participatory sports
(8) Lack of interest and effort in maintaining a healthy body weight and fitness level
(9) Addictions to purchasing electronic gadgets and automotive type boy toys
(10) Arrogance and narcissism
(11) Neediness – I’m your partner, your best friend, your lover, your equal, and not your mother
(12) Closed mindedness
(13) A sense of humor that focuses on bodily functions and/or sex
(14) An inability to laugh at themselves
(15) Lack of affection domestic animals, wildlife and the environment
(16) Laziness and an inclination to procrastinate
(17) Lack of sensuality – it’s enjoyment of the journey, not the destination that counts
(18) Drama queens (yes, I have met male drama queens – they tend to be exceedingly close to their mothers)
(19) In ability to forgive, pouting or sulking, or acting cold & distant (get over it!)
(20) The expectation that I will cheerfully attend events I have no interest in as an escort
(21) Inability to listen and inclination to constantly interrupt.
(22) Inability to cook and clean – I’m not your maid.
(23) Metrosexual inclinations.
(24) Men who turn toilets into libraries – for gob’s sake if you eat right then elimination is not a problem.
(25) Inability or reluctance to toss laundry into the hamper it belongs in.
(26) Inability or reluctance to put a new bog roll on the toilet paper roller when only two tiny sheets remain.
(27) Inability or reluctance to do grocery shopping, bill paying and/or to run errands.
(28) Extreme vanity – men who take longer to get ready to go out than I do.
(29) Repressed sexuality and/or lack of inclination to experiment.
(30) A voyeuristic addiction to porno – I guarantee that I have more interesting action to offer than those who are paid to perform on videos do.
(31) Men who spend an excessive amount of time washing and polishing automobiles or motorbikes.

(33) Passive aggressive manipulative tendencies.

Why the 17 brand new pairs of shoes, unworn in the closet and still  shopping for more…..

Why the toilet seat must always be left down..

Whyhair product, make up, conditioners, etc. taking up every spot on the bathroom counter…

What I want to know most is what type of man you like.




So, which is it … you want to know about our habits or what kind of man we like? Because those are several different questions 

And just to add to my thought, what one woman posts here is not necessarily the opinion of other women that visit this thread.

Shoes: shoes are like earrings…fashion accessories. I have, for example, 3 pairs of red shoes…fancy cloth ones to go with a dressup outfit that has red in it, low-heeled lizard print ones to wear with “smart casual” outfits, and a pair of red sandals to wear with casual clothes. I have four pairs of black boots…lizard-print cowboy boots, black leather riding style boots, black suede chukkas, black leather lace-up ankle boots: each pair has a different style and is to be worn with a different kind of outfit or in a different season.

The toilet seat: the toilet was designed to be covered…that is why it has a lid. With the lid down, people who must sit to wee don’t end up with their bums in cold, unsanitary water in the dark; your toddler is less likely to drown in it (yes, it can happen); your dog will not drink out of it…and then lick your face. Most importantly, however, with the lid down, when you flush you will not aerosolize the entire room…including the toothbrushes and your own face…with the contents of the toilet. PUT THE DANGED LID DOWN!

All the stuff in the bathroom? You want pretty? You want smooth? You want smells nice? Well, it takes a lot of products to produce that. Don’t mess with the magic…just appreciate the results.

Different kinds of women like different kinds of men. For me, he must be intelligent, kind hearted, honest, compassionate, respectful of others, and have a sense of humour. My husband is all that. I’m a happy camper.

There’s only one thing I want from a man. And that is…