Comments on: Men and “Alone Time”

By: Annie

Annie — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 19:06:01 +0000

I love and cherish my other half but alone time is necessary too. It evens things out.

By: Nothing profound

Nothing profound — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 16:07:02 +0000

I think it’s an individual thing rather than related to gender. Some people are just more social than others, some more solitary. And a person can change. I used to be the most gregarious being imaginable, but now I enjoy quiet and solitude the most.

By: Jackie Durkee

Jackie Durkee — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 14:19:38 +0000

Actually, some of us women need alone time also. That is probably why I’ve adopted to single live again with no problem. Now if the 3 kids would get grown and on their own, I could have all the time I really need. I also am hopelessly addicted to blogging. At times, it drives my kids crazy!

By: Heather Kephart

Heather Kephart — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 16:12:34 +0000

Football season is here? Noooooooooooo!!! My husband is brilliant. He watches in our bedroom where his computer set-up is. He tells me he’s “sparing me” from having to watch it. This nets him hours of alone time, and good will from his wife. I know what he’s doing, yet I still appreciate being spared the irritating announcer voices droning on and on and on.

By: DorothyL

DorothyL — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 13:16:35 +0000

Nice of you to share your thoughts. I enjoy reading the rumination of a man’s mind as it is a vital part of understanding who you are.

A persons private space is so necessary in their balance. Some need more while others need less. It is a vital part of understanding your partner and their needs.
You are very lucky in that your partner understands your need for that personal space.
So many partners miss the reasoning behind the need for personal space…they tend to take it as a need to be away from them when it has nothing to do with them.

I am similar with your desire of personal space as my entire balance depends on a certain amount of ‘me time’.

At the end of the day and just upon returning home, the last thing I need is a bunch of kids attacking me at the door with their needs from A-Z. My rule of thumb was…let me get in, my shoes off and 20 minutes to myself showering or whatever and then I am yours willingly.

When I was a child…one of 7…the house rule was…no one was allowed in the kitchen for 1 hour once my father returned home from work. He enjoyed his dinner with the company of my mother…then he was free for us.

As far as daily chores around the house.. even that needs to have a balance. In a relationship/partnership ..we must have acceptable understanding of what needs to be done and what can wait to be done.

Life is all about balance

By: HOBO(nickname)

HOBO(nickname) — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 04:49:21 +0000

I cant say whether most men do the same but yes, I agree people who are creative love to be alone many times. May be dream the best partner for creative people.
Those who dream most, Do the most – They say.
Cheers !!!

By: Tracy

Tracy — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 17:16:08 +0000

This was a good reminder for me since football season is here. Giving my man space without guilt over the to-dos is a great daily life gift.

By: Rocky

Rocky — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 15:55:59 +0000

I absolutely agree with your first line Glenn. Man are always dominant and says I can face all the problems all by myself unlike woman who needs someone to lean on.

By: DaisySoapGirl

DaisySoapGirl — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 18:10:43 +0000

I agree that we all need a time to relax and rewind from our day at work. Keep in mind that women also want to come home from a long day at work and just kick back and relax. The only problem is that we have to fix dinner and do all the other chores while you are kicking back relaxing. If there are children are they not allowed to come to you for help with homework. Forgive me if I’m not understanding clearly why one person has to burden all the immediate household responsibilities. What I do agree upon is that when both people work that they should come home and perform the necessary chores and then relax. After those are done you can happily go to your mancave and do what makes you happy.

By: sasha

sasha — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 16:03:43 +0000

Everyone needs some time alone…or should I say most people.While men and women often have different likes and dislikes such as movie genres,video games vs. soap operas,etc. There is one important factor in a successful relationship.There has to be a balance between time spent together and alone time…without that balance lonliness creeps in…and the couple forms a distance between them.A truly healthy relationship thrives on the time you spend together whether it is dinner for two,vacations, or just snuggling together watching a movie or listening to a cd.Everyone needs to feel wanted…just keep that in mind.Its all about the balance.