Guys Who Just Can’t Pick Up Girls
From a guys point of view, many if not most, women can’t perceive why after leaving hints to a guy, that they don’t pick up on them and approach them. “Jeesh all he had to do is come over and start talking and I would have definitely gone out with him, or even had made out with him”.
A few posts ago I wrote about the 5 Hints Women Give Guys . From comments and more thought, I don’t think women have the foggiest clue how hard it is for many guys to actually walk up and talk to them.
From ancient times to now, there has always been that self confident, suave, smooth talking guy, that could have his pick of women. Many of them not even good looking to boot. The women that spurned this type of guy, in his mine, chalked it up to, no big deal, it’s her loss, or something to that effect and moves on to the next.
They even had a TV show a while back called The Pick Up Artist. It took odd looking or introverted guys and showed them how to go about, picking up women. And let me tell you, the guy who was “The Pick Up Artist” was one butt ugly dude. I have to give him props, he was one smooth talker and figured out “the formula”.
There is no formula, girls know that and most guys know that. It’s about being able to actually go up and say hello and talk to a women. The hello part can be daunting enough. But add the pressure that once hello is over, he has to come up with more conversation. Conversation in which to engage and make him look either witty or interesting. And if your trying this at a night club, you can bet she won’t be alone and you get to perform in front of her friends to boot. This part is tantamount to getting on the Long Island Expressway at rush hour.
The LIE
The fact that there are so many articles, ‘how do’ books and CD’s on how to accomplish it, that this subject will never die. The subject matter is probably right up there in popularity for publishers as are cook books. Yet, most guys still are stuck where they were from the start.
It’s awesome to have a mentor like these guys did on the TV show that I mentioned earlier. To actually have someone hold your hand and, watch your every move. To instruct and memorize into your sub conscious how to accomplish the task so well, that you could do it in your sleep.
The Pick Up Artist
They call it a reality show, but that isn’t reality. There are a shit full of guys, who are either all by themselves, or have taken on a partner who, now this sounds harsh, have settled for a women that is not the one they really want to be with. They do it, for that is what is expected from society, from their families and yes for themselves. To enjoy going through life with a partner.
It’s great that women are becoming more outgoing on this subject. And the internet is aiding many a lost soul, to get their courage up, to start and converse with women“we hope their women” over dating sites, emails or im’s.
But I have no statistics on what happens to these guys after they have met someone over the net. When they finally meet, if they turn back into an insecure, intimidated flummox. Who ends up paying for dinner, then never getting the courage, to call on them again. And starting all over again, or finally just getting a pet.
I doubt anything will change soon in this respect. I could be totally off base, hell I been married for most of my adult life. So am I wrong?
It’s the man’s job to come over and start the mating dance. I can only speak for the male end of it of course. But this I am still sure of. If a woman decides to go out for the evening, with the express interest of getting a guy, she can do it easily and without a word spoken. The reverse is not true.
By the way while researching this post I did happen across something new I never heard of it is called The Seduction Community. Might have to save that for another post.
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I agree with you here. We women have a easy time with getting the guy we want. I do know from male family members that rejection is avoided at almost all costs. Too bad, but I do understand. It's that ego thing. Just saying.
Have a terrific day sweetie. Big hug.
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Thank you for my hug, I’ll take all you got Sandee
It's a rough, rough dating world out there. I see friends and family that deal with it. No thanks. I was always shy, so I certainly do understand how tough it is to strike up that conversation withough coming across like a complete tool.
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Guess we are both lucky in that aspect. Glad the single life is a thing of the past for this guy.
The funny part is that now that I'm "older", I just don't give a crap… so maybe I'd do well. Oh well, I'm happy where I am.
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ME TOO
Some guys are too shy to approach women even after the women give strong signs of attractiveness
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From my own experience, many guys hate aggressive women. After giving too much hints, guys even hate more and stay away from this kind of women
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Courage and confidence – that's so obviously the trick (big wallet, or a TV show called The Pick Up Artist doesn't hurt either!)
I have no idea how I managed to get Chrissy as a wife – as you can see here from my horribly shameless plug…http://www.boneheadblog.com/2010/01/bonehead-pick…
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I heard it was from your huge bank account and the fact they called you "The Bone"
My secret is out!
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Yeah the secret is officially out, look what you got for talking with that professional tongue
I believe the fear of rejection has altered so many opportunities for so many ..men & women alike.
It is truly all about risk and going for it.
They should have courses in self-confidence in schools…it would help not only in dating but in abuse experiences.
As always Glenn…awesome topic
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Well D my mom always said. If you don't ask, you don't get. So if you start with nothing and end up with nothing, then no damage, but hey you might end up with something incredible. So push the shyness away and Go For It. I know your blog helps all your readers with confidence.
I useta Pick Up Girls. I'm Not good looking, not soave, & sophisticated, although somewhat charming, I guess I just had a knack. Knacking, can be a swift kick in the ass, though, when the WOMEN, changes you in for a newer, shinier model, with less mileage.
Now, I'm stuck, trying to figure things out. Do I go for something like The Roxxxy Doll?, or something real? Maybe, stick with my old friend Rosie? She's never let me down, doesn't talk back, always satisfied, kinda like Roxxxy, except she doesn't cost $9,000.00!
Plus, I have a marketing dilemma. Middleaged, Disabled, Homeless, Pennyless. Where do you go with that? I think I will check out, The Seduction Community, right NOW…
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Well I can definitely see women attracted to you, as you are one funny guy. No matter as we all age, we all don;t look like we did in our twenties. So the older we get I think it comes down to companionship and having a good friend and ear that will listen. And vice versa.
Effective.. but way to unrealistic.. Better know the girl BEFORE thinking of nailing her.
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LOL I think that would be the way it suppose to be. But we all know those pesky one night stands have been around for a long long time. Even HIV hasn't scared off these crazies.
It’s all about timing and the approach. It’s never harmful to go over and make small chats; girls like small chats and are pretty good at that. What’s really sticky is if you try to compliment her looks, spilling out personal details, etc. almost immediately after striking up the conversation. Where you go from there can be concluded within 5 minutes. If she finds you nice and is interested in the conversation, it’s a go. If she’s already made some excuses to leave your company, then let her go.