Why Facebook Is Destroying Relationships
Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, they all have changed the way we interact with each other,especially on the internet.
Twitter: lets you give 140 character shout outs all day long. No big deal, unless you tweet 50 times a day. Believe me, no one is that interesting nor does anyone really care about your every move, except your over protective mom. It’s huge and it’s growing but it is not the threat, that Facebook is.
MySpace is a lot like Facebook, maybe not as many bells and whistles. It’s been around longer then the other two social networks, which means in Internet nano lifespan it’s getting old. Not to mention Facebook worldwide now has double the amount of users then MySpace. As a matter of fact more than 1 in 5 people who accessed the Internet signed on to Facebook.
Before we get to the meat of this post, there is no doubt that a guy can access more women than the old analog world of generations past. But what guys don’t realize is the fact that women may be more digitally privy than you. While you’re sitting here reading this post, your girl could be browsing your Facebook profile right now and make a conclusion that you’re actually a jerk.
Facebook: For whatever reason, men put things on Facebook and think it’s cool. They put on this persona that let’s face it, is larger then life. He doesn’t have control over what is said about or to him. So guys you need to realize this and listen up! If your in a relationship, good old Facebook can help bury you quicker then you being caught in bed with your next door neighbor.
You had an argument with your best friend, you made a complete idiot last night at the bar, you know for a fact you’re smarter then your boss, you ran into an old lover and you knew you could have hooked up. Of course every “online” buddy knows all about it. Because you told them.
If you need to spew out any of the above examples and can’t keep them to yourself. Tell your best friend in person, not the world. You can even whine once in awhile to your woman about your job or anything that doesn’t involve another woman, what she is wearing or your penchant for picking your toe jam while watching the Packers on TV.
OK, you got that down, right?. You’re feeling safe until you sign on Facebook to see your wall filled with the guys you were out with last night busting your balls for trying to pick up that blond after 5 drinks, that you thought looked like Shakira. Ahhh , you see where I am going with this. You need to shut that wall off, or in the least restrict who can view it. But what happens when she asks you why your wall is restricted? If you have friends that love to write on your wall about your exploits, you’re fucked!!!
One of the best things about Facebook are all the interactive apps. I don’t know how many quizzes people send me to fill out or how many cows you can own in Farmville. Don’t join them, don’t become a farmer or a mafia hit man. This is going to lead you to one of two places. Either she reads the quizzes or polls and finds out things about you, she doesn’t like or you lied about before. Or, worse yet, you become so addicted to building your own cyber restaurant, you forget to cuddle up on the coach to watch that movie you promised with her that night.
Lastly, the old axiom “a picture paints a thousand words” has been revived big time, again to our Facebook profile. I know you’re not dumb enough to put up that picture of you crying profusely after you lost $1500 at the casino last weekend, after you told her you had to visit your very sick grandmother. But because in your friends network one of them thought it would be cool to show it, well again it isn’t hard for her to find out where every picture or sentence that has your name involved in it is.
Speaking of pictures, you’re mighty proud of your ride. It’s your baby, second right after her, of course. Then an innocent comment from one of your buds that is so awed by those new $2000 rims and tells you how jealous he is. All this coming right after you told her, “we just don’t have enough saved to go on that three day Spa vacation” she so wanted. How fast can you pack a suitcase?
Of course there are no scientific statistics for any of the above statements. But do we really need any? I know there are some good stories out there from our readers. Help a guy out and let us know. What did I miss? Should you close your Facebook account now? Or open a new one and make sure you print this article and stuff it somewhere she can’t find it and refer to it. And by all means, make sure this new account is only given to people you know you can trust, like your Priest or Rabbi. Better yet, learn how to tweet!!
Related articles by Zemanta
- Creepy Ways Your Social Media Data Can Be Used (ecommercetimes.com)
- Facebook & Privacy: Trying to be everything to everyone is a minefield (digital.venturebeat.com)
- How to Commit Social Suicide Online (time.com)
Short URL: http://man-over-board.com/?p=4192