What To Do if You’re Dating a Money Hungry Gold-Digger.
Some men feel that all women are gold-diggers. Ladies, don’t get mad, but to some extent this is true. And biology is to blame. A woman is hard-wired to seek a mate that can provide for her while she raises a family. And while the changing sensibilities of modern society have allowed many women to “have it all” (career, family, loads of stress…basically everything but a good night’s sleep) there are still plenty of ladies who harbor the now somewhat unpopular desire to stay home with the buns they spent nine months baking in the oven. Silly maternal instincts! However, these women should not necessarily be labeled as the malicious, money-hungry harpies that are implied by the term “gold-digger”. True gold-diggers have no aspirations in the arena of marriage or motherhood unless they are as tools to secure eventual alimony and child support (children as accessories…ouch). They will gladly hire nannies so that they can carry on their busy schedules of shopping, lunching with friends, and contributing your money to charitable organizations (when they aren’t pursuing their acting, singing, or other “artistic” pursuits). If you happen to find yourself dating such a succubus, or worse, engaged to one, there are a few things you can do to get rid of her (or at least protect your assets).
- Run for the hills! That’s right, pull a straight up Houdini-style disappearing act. Dump her, cut off communication, heck, change your phone number (or your name) if necessary. Just get out as soon as possible. And if you’re one of those guys who thinks the girls at strip club genuinely like you, this course of action is extra important.
- Cut her off. If you’ve been giving her lots of expensive gifts (tennis bracelets and nights out on the town) and taking trips to exotic islands hither and yon, let the well run dry and see how long she sticks around. Five bucks says you’ll see her hair pins fly off her head as she zips away on her broom.
- Give away all your money. Okay, this might not be the best course of action for you, personally, so maybe just let her think you donated it all to charity or that you’ve been forced to file for bankruptcy. Who knows, maybe she’ll buck up and pay the rent (likely with your credit card, just before she uses it to buy a brand-new getaway car).
- Find another girl. Nothing kills a relationship faster than divided attention. Just make sure girlfriend number two isn’t also a gold-digger or you could end up with a Thunderdome situation on your hands as they duke it out for your fortune. Actually, that would be kind of cool. More likely they would put their heads together and come up with a better way to bilk you.
- Get a pre-nup. If you somehow decide that this money-grubbing tramp is actually the girl of your dreams (where do you think trophy wives come from?), then you’ll either have to get a better job in order to give her everything her heart desires (since everything that’s yours will be hers, and then some) or else prepare an iron-clad pre-nuptial agreement. If she refuses to sign, all the better. You can keep her on as a mistress.
Darcy Johansan is a writer for Pickup Artist where you can find great tips and advice on dating.
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I’ve never been one of these kind of gals. Always made my own living and did very nicely all by myself for many many years. So, I can’t relate. I’ve seen some that I thought were gold diggers though. They all hated to work too.
I like your suggestions of getting rid of them. I would think any one of these would work very nicely. Especially the new girlfriend angle. Bwahahahahahaha.
Have a terrific day and Labor Day. Big hug.
Happy Labor Day to you Sandee
Yes I am sure we have all come across both female and male gold diggers, I don’t necessarily think any one sex has the market cornered. But I enjoyed Darcy’s post enough to ask her to do another for us. We enjoy the female POV here also.
Hi Glenn, Enjoy the article! But I do not like the photo. The picture of the woman counting the money is Asian-looks like a typical filipina. I am an advocate of improving the on-line image of the Filipina. Do you know that if you type” Filipina” in any search engine, hits are all about dating, mail-order brides etc… The Philippines have a lot of educated women that the US can be proud of. Anyway, Have a Safe Labor Day!
Hello David and as always it’s great to see you. The author of this post Darcy also sent the picture and I am sure she didn’t intend it to look negatively on any one nationality.
I know from blogging the last year here on MOB that we have a lot of Filipino female bloggers and they, as any other segment of the human race, enjoy the good, the bad and the ugly also.
I also believe in your statement if you did a Google search you would indeed find the results on dating, etc. But I am also sure if you did a search like that for Russian, Chinese, Yugoslavian, and many other nationalities you would find the same results. Searches are based on algorithms that are placed on how much traffic these key words result in. Unfortunately the sites that promote marriage between American men and women of other ethnicities run prevalent for there is a huge profit motive using vulnerable men and women.
Glenn, thank you for the explanation. I was not aware that this also happens to other nationalities. I guess I was oversensitive. Cheers!
What I tell guys with money is that they’re asking for gold diggers if they show off their money to attract hot women or try to get a girlfriend. The best thing to do is to date women that don’t know you’re loaded, or at least don’t show them that your rich when first approaching them for the first time. If they agree to date you then fine, pick them up in your Bently, just don’t make it obvious that you have one in the beginning stages. This is the best way to learn how to get a girlfriend that isn’t a gold digger.